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John Lewis Won't Attend Civil Rights Museum Opening Because Trump Is Going

John Lewis Won't Attend Civil Rights Museum Opening Because Trump Is GoingRep. John Lewis (D-Ga.) said he will not attend the opening of the Mississippi Civil Rights Museum on Saturday because President Donald Trump’s “attendance and hurtful policies are an insult to the people portrayed” in the museum.



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Mitch McConnell backtracks three weeks after saying Roy Moore should drop out: 'I’m going to let the people of Alabama make the call'

Mitch McConnell backtracks three weeks after saying Roy Moore should drop out: 'I’m going to let the people of Alabama make the call'Three weeks after proclaiming that Alabama Senate nominee Roy Moore should leave the race, U.S.



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Roy Moore Campaign Official Caught On Video Going After Journalist

Roy Moore Campaign Official Caught On Video Going After JournalistA campaign worker for Roy Moore, the Republican nominee for U.S. Senate from Alabama, was caught on video getting physical with a Fox News cameraman outside an event on Monday night.



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Trump rails against own Justice Department for not going after 'Crooked Hillary'

Trump rails against own Justice Department for not going after 'Crooked Hillary'“Everybody is asking why the Justice Department (and FBI) isn't looking into all of the dishonesty going on with Crooked Hillary & the Dems,” Trump tweeted.



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Trump rails against own Justice Department for not going after 'Crooked Hillary'

Trump rails against own Justice Department for not going after 'Crooked Hillary'“Everybody is asking why the Justice Department (and FBI) isn't looking into all of the dishonesty going on with Crooked Hillary & the Dems,” Trump tweeted.



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Is GOP Going to Cap Retirement Savings to Pay for Tax Cuts?

Is GOP Going to Cap Retirement Savings to Pay for Tax Cuts?President Trump denies a report that the GOP is planning to cap retirement savings to pay for tax reform, but is he telling the truth? Art Laffer, an economic adviser under President Reagan, weighs in.



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John McCain Is Worried the U.S. Is Going Back 'to the 1930s'

John McCain Is Worried the U.S. Is Going Back 'to the 1930s'Senator John McCain, echoing the sentiments of his Monday night speech in Philadelphia, said Tuesday that he is worried the United States is reverting to the nationalistic tendencies that characterized the 1930s.



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How Going to a Naked Hot Springs Retreat Helped Me Accept My Breast Cancer Surgery Scars

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Having breast cancer at age 39 wreaked havoc on my body—and killed my sex drive too. After 69 blood draws, 22 chemotherapy infusions, 11 infections (staph, kidney, and yeast, to name just a few), and seven invasive surgeries (including reconstruction surgery for my breasts and a full hysterectomy), I felt like Frankenstein. I didn't have a left nipple. Both breasts rocked red, angry-looking scars. I literally couldn't feel large swaths of my chest and stomach, and I felt furious and sad about having my tubes tied. I'd experienced emotional trauma, mental fog, physical weakness, even the loss of my eyelashes. The end result? I was avoiding sex with my husband of 15 years.

Before cancer, our sex life was normal. But after cancer, I sometimes had trouble believing that I was still a sexual being. I assumed that my (awesome) spouse now viewed me as broken, ugly, or less-than. I sought out support groups, but still felt like I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, that my cancer would return at any moment.

I wasn't alone in feeling this way. Angel Wells, a 34-year-old I met through Bay Area Young Survivors (BAYS), a support group for young women living with breast cancer in the San Francisco area, had a similar experience. "Not only did breast cancer take one of my breasts, it broke my sexuality," she told me in an email. "I was completely unprepared for the pain and lack of sex drive, not to mention the strain on my relationship. I feel broken as a woman."

Ali Kent, 35, another BAYS member, said she, too, has struggled to get her sex life back on track. "The almost complete lack of sex drive, weight gain, and awful pain associated with sex now is unfair," she said.

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According to Karen Whitehead, a Georgia-based counselor who specializes in issues like cancer and life transitions, these are unfortunately not uncommon experiences for breast cancer survivors. "The scars from breast cancer can affect a woman's sense of sexuality and femininity, self-esteem, sex drive, desire for intimacy, and body image," she explained to me in an email. "It is not uncommon for women to feel defective or damaged in some way."

To try and rediscover my withered sexuality, I decided to visit a clothing-optional hot springs resort in Northern California. Today it's a non-profit retreat, but Sierra Hot Springs was once considered a sacred place by Native Americans. Situated next to a forest and alpine valley, it seemed like it would be a rustic, healing escape—and maybe it could help me come to terms with my new body.

When I arrived, I instantly felt worlds away from my normal urban routine of medical appointments, writing, cooking, and walking my dog. After checking in, I made my way to the main pool area, a gorgeous open-air dome with a hot tub and cold plunge baths. Butterflies, dragonflies, bees, and hummingbirds flitted through the tall trees.

The all-gender locker room was right next to the pool. Inside, two women were wearing bikini bottoms, but everyone else was completely nude. I wasn't ready for that just yet, though; in a move straight out of junior high, I quickly removed my cotton dress and underwear, rolled them up and placed them in a nearby wooden cubby, and draped a towel around my body.

Outside by the pool, I chose a lounge chair at the end of the row, wanting as much seclusion as I could get. The male-to-female ratio was about 50:50; there were naked bodies everywhere, but I felt self-conscious. No one else was missing a nipple, I noticed—I didn't even see any C-section scars. Not yet ready to bare my skin, I kept my towel tightly wrapped while I tried to read and enjoy the peace and quiet.

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After a while, I noticed a woman in her 70s with her grey hair up in a bun. She walked slowly, with a soft smile, back to her chair from the hot tub. We didn't speak, but I felt a connection to her; surely, like me, she has faced challenges, and perhaps even illnesses of her own? And if she could walk around confidently, I could too, right? I longed for the peace she had in her own skin.

I finally got the strength to make my way to the hot tub, and let myself float and bob on my back with my breasts in the air. It was serene and freeing to look up at the sky while buoyed by water. Later, I tried to channel the older woman's confidence as I walked back to my chair. The wooden deck was warm, and I felt like I was finally ready to turn over on my back and let my breasts be free.

As I let the towel drop, I felt a fluttering in my belly, like I was about to get up and speak in front of a large group. But looking around, I realized that no one was looking at me. I sat back and enjoyed the feeling of the sun on my skin—scars and all.

 

Mary Ladd is currently the co-author of The Wig Report, a humorous graphic novel about hospitals, hair loss, and major illness.


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Full Haley: On Iran 'I Think You Are Going to See Us Stay in the Deal'

Full Haley: On Iran 'I Think You Are Going to See Us Stay in the Deal'UN Ambassador Nikki Haley tells Chuck Todd that she believes the nuclear deal with Iran will be strengthened by the president's actions.



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Nelly rape accuser wants to stop investigation because she believes 'the system is going to fail her'

Nelly rape accuser wants to stop investigation because she believes 'the system is going to fail her'A woman who accused US rapper Nelly of sexual assault has asked police to stop their investigation, her lawyer has said. Lawyer Karen Koehler posted a letter on her website saying the woman “is telling Auburn Police Department and the King County Prosecutor’s Office to put a halt on the investigation of Cornell Iral Haynes Jr”, the real name of the rapper. It goes on to say she will not testify in criminal proceedings against him, saying the woman “wishes she had not called 911 because she believes the system is going to fail her” and she “wants this to end”.



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